Hard Truths Part 1: Needs

The fact is, we are living in emotionally intense times right now. It is truthfully being orchestrated by the Cosmos. So, none of us are getting out of it.

I figured maybe, we could all navigate this together… with a little info.

Have you ever heard the phrase “Suffering is optional”?

It used to really get under my skin… until life knocked me on my ass and forced me to have to learn a few things. Funny how quickly you learn things when it kicks the crap out of your face.

The main lesson… HOW TO LIVE.

There are things that we do to ourselves that rob us of life.

Most of us are here, but we aren’t really living life.

Here are a few things to contemplate if interested…

The Need for Movement-

The problem: not doing anything.

I can’t tell you the number of times the first words out of a client’s mouth are “I feel stuck”.

We need movement. Without it, we are stuck. Being in the same position physically, mentally or emotionally for too long creates a sense of being stuck.

We need to get off the “X”.

Move the body. Move the mind. Move the emotion.

How do we do that?

Move your body any way you choose to move energy.

Move your mind by practicing self-reflection.

Move the emotion by expressing it.

What is held within becomes dead weight if it isn’t moved.

Your true power is in the power of choice and none of us are helpless.

We can choose to move the energy or to remain stagnant and let the flies collect around us.

The Need for Release-

The problem: avoidance

How many of you are feeling utterly exhausted right now? The antidote isn’t sleep.

We need to release what we should no longer carry, or we become exhausted. Exhaustion comes from weight of what we aren't letting go of. It's a type of fatigue sleep cannot fix.

Exhaustion isn't coming from how much we are doing or how busy we are, but rather, from the weight of what we need to let go of.

Unprocessed grief. Unexpressed anger. Rehearsed regret you play over and over again in your mind. Guilt and shame you've been dragging around for years.

Healing doesn't come through adding something new. Adding more healing modalities doesn’t work. Another self-help book doesn’t work.

It is only through releasing and relinquishing does healing occur.

Sit with it instead of drowning it out with distraction and busyness.

Seek out help in regards to learning how to let go.

Need for Silence:

The problem: noise everywhere

The mind chatters so much about meaningless things, and it's surrounded by so much noise, you cannot hear what really matters... YOUR voice.

Not the critical voice. Not the voice rattling off your to-do list. Not the voice with all of the fear-based warnings and worry.

Your true voice is the one of knowing

In times like these, clarity is found in silence. Silence forces us to be alone with ourselves. And for many, this is a scary ordeal.

The things you avoid or run from will not disappear.  It becomes anxiety without a source. Health problems without a clear diagnosis or solution. A sense of unease that pervasively follows you around. Restlessness without origin.

Wisdom doesn't shout, it whispers, so silence is needed to hear it.

The Need for Belonging-

The problem: disconnection

We all belong to something much larger. However, we have become so deeply disconnected that we are moving away from it.

Disconnected from nature, community. Disconnected from depth and purpose.

We are each individual threads in a world tapestry.

Disconnection unhealed causes you to feel adrift in a world and that you disappearing from it would go unnoticed. It causes us to feel alone, isolated and unseen. This isn't true... it's a symptom of being disconnected from the fullness (heaven) from which we came from.

What are you connected to right now that is bigger than your daily concerns?

The Need for Surrender-

The problem: control and fear

Oh, this is the one that gets me way more often than I care to admit.

Exhaustion occurs when we try to control life. Trying to control everything to protect ourselves from getting hurt. Our entire life curated to protect ourselves from pain, we end up creating our own prisons.

Trying to fix people who aren't willing or ready to be fixed. Trying to force or predict outcomes. Trying to force our way to ease our emotional discomfort, even if it means crossing the boundary of someone else.

Know the difference between a problem needing your active attention now vs a situation that needs to breathe.

Know the things you can change vs the things that will resolve in their own time if you stop pushing and interfering.  This is like planting a seed and digging it up to see if it sprouted yet. You end up killing the plant!

The Need for Presence-

The problem: distraction

If you lived inside my walls, you would hear this word brought up frequently as it is truly something I need to work on.

We as a culture live in the future instead of “now”. Life doesn't happen anywhere but right now. We waste so much mental energy in a time that doesn't exist yet. It's ridiculous, but we do it.

We worry about scenarios that may not occur. We try to prepare for threats that may not arrive. We wait to be happy thinking the perfect conditions are yet to arrive.

The "I'll be happy when...." scenario.

I hate to break it to you, but the conditions may never be right... and the fact is tomorrow may never come.

There is no address that happiness can be delivered to. Now is the only place happiness can live.  It's found in your heart today... not in a place that doesn't exist yet.

Obsessive future orientation robs you and it's the root of anxiety.

Right now, this world has a terrible mental health epidemic.

Depression is rooted in living in the past. Anxiety is rooted in living in a time that does not yet exist (the future). Anxiety serves as a messenger trying to reorientate you to the “here and now”.  And we medicate it.  We numb it. And we wonder why this world is so effed up?? It’s because we don’t know how to be present.

Were you taught how? Neither was I.

People want to feel loved. But how can we expect them to feel loved by us when they feel our absence even if we are physically present?

Visit the future, but don't take up residence there.

The Need for Intuition-

The problem: wanting acceptance and approval from the outside world

We tend to ignore our inner knowing.

It innately knows when to leave, when to stay.  When to speak or to stay quiet.  When to act or when to remain still.

Intuition isn't some mystical woo-woo thing. It is your divine natural intelligence that connects you to the world around you.

This aspect of yourself gets activated by silence, by presence, and by honest self-reflection.

We are taught to trust data over instinct, logic over feeling, opinions of others over our own internal compass. And we wonder why we second guess ourselves constantly.

We look for permission and approval from the outside world when our gut tells us it's right for us.

When you talk yourself out of what you already know, you move further and further away from knowing yourself and hearing your own voice. This sets up a cascade of suffering.

The internal confusion gets harder and harder to navigate.

The Bottom Line

When you stay too long, carry too much, numb out the silence, disconnect from belonging, try to control what you can't or live in a time that doesn't yet exist and override your intuition, life gets heavier because you moved away from what keeps you naturally in balance.

The weight you feel is information not punishment.

It isn't the Universe telling you you're broken, but rather, it is asking for your return to yourself and the Home within your own heart.

With Love

Sincerely,

Becky Costello Psychic Medium