When the Empath Snaps

August is here, and as I turned another year older, I spent some time reflecting upon some things about myself and my spiritual growth. I ended up doing something to be kind, when the fact was, I honestly didn’t give a shit.

I reflected upon how much I have changed. I pondered if that change was a good thing or not.

Life happens, and it carves you and shapes you, but I was unsure if I liked who I have become.

Just 10 years ago I was so kind, caring and gave so much of myself and never stopped to see if what I gave was reciprocated or if people cared about me the way I cared for and supported them. That led me to being used and betrayed. Now, I scrutinize my personal relationships looking at everything. I have become what my husband calls “tit for tat”.

I am happy to listen to people’s problems… until you are unwilling to do something about it.

I will give you anything, until you forget about me when I’m hurting.

I began to question if I had become cold.

Spirit has always been sneaky when they want me to know something to change my thinking or get me to see something.

My evening ritual is watching spiritual videos while texting my peeps to catch up on things. On the day before my 51^st birthday, a video that was about Carl Jung, empaths and when they snap appeared uncharacteristically in my feed.

In the video I learned so much and I would like to share some with you...

Empaths carry an intense amount of both “light” and “dark”. They feel pain intensely yet contain it. They absorb energy and information. They possess something called Transcendent Function- the ability to detect deception yet hope for the best in others. Thus, they hold contradictory truths within.

Oftentimes they are considered weak or overly sensitive. I would like to inform you that is bullshit… they feel everything and hold back. There is a price to pay for the empath that does this (more info below).

Emotional sensitivity is advanced emotional pattern recognition, what Jung calls Feeling Function Dominance, a type of emotional precision where emotions are felt BUT then they are decoded.

They remember everything... every lie, every manipulation and betrayal, with clarity, NOT bitterness. But, when enough of this information is stored, the empath’s energy fields shift as if someone turned off a switch. This is what Jung calls Enantiodromia- when something is pushed to an extreme it turns into its opposite.

The empath goes from endlessly patient to immovable.

From giving to no end to becoming highly selective, only giving to a chosen few who have earned it.

From being the one who forgave everything to the one who walks away for good without looking back.

They stop caring what others think and needing outside approval.

They stop chasing love from those who carry no depth.

They stop giving when it isn’t reciprocated.

They stop apologizing for their needs.

They love selectively.

They learn to say no.

They stop rescuing those who prefer to drown.

They don’t pour energy into human black holes.

They become soft with those who deserve it, yet sharp with those who demand it.

And the kicker… they no longer need others to complete them or make them feel whole.

They learned how to be emotionally strategic.

They cultivated hard-earned discernment that comes from suffering consciously.

From here, the awakened empath now becomes the mirror. They stop absorbing disfunction and fake bullshit. They stop reflecting and start revealing the energies of those around them… but they reveal what it is you are hiding or not seeing.

They move from being reactive to responsive, acting from a place of conscious choice, and this changes the entire world around them.

They don’t chase. They don’t beg. They don’t argue. They don’t feel the need to explain themselves to you. This is Psychological Autonomy.

The powerplay of an integrated empath is one of detachment born from understanding. They walk away because they are finished, not because they are hurt or afraid. They literally stop caring.

True strength only comes from dancing with and then integrating the shadow (darkness AND unlived potential). This is what happens when the empath snaps.

They don’t lose their heart… they gain a spine.

I am not colder… I’ve merely become wiser and didn’t realize because society skews shit so much.

If you ask yourself the same questions I have, about who you’ve become… I really hope this helps you.

 this was something that really resonated with me...

“The greatest victory isn’t conquering others; it is conquering parts of yourself that would pull you down to their level”. – Carl Jung

With sincere Love,

Becky Costello Psychic Medium